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Tamlin
(Tamlin@mindspring.com) perhaps your view of the world is so small that you have to shape people, tell them who and what they are name them sort them categorize them without much care to see if they agree. your rigidity darkens your sight. perhaps your view of me is so narrow that you must mold my reality, dictate from your pedestal on high name me label me trap me without seeing the core that makes me whole. your control silences my voice. perhaps your fear of me is so great that you must shout me down, with stoic rage and twisted meanings scold me lash out at me slap me with your words without understanding that your tongue leaves scars. your anger stifles my essence. perhaps my anger at you grows so great that I must speak up, shatter this mold at all costs break the traps shred the labels silence your voice that echoes within me: (you're not really a femme. you're incurably ill. you need me to take care of you. you need my permission to do anything. you owe me. I own you.) ...without silencing my tears and fury and resolve. my rage cuts through the lies.
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[Unfortunately,
most books focusing on domestic violence center on females as
the abused, with male perpetrators. Little has been
written on male survivors of domestic abuse, or where women
are abusive. Several books in this reading list broach
the subject of same-sex domestic violence. While this
certainly doesn't equate with trans DV, it's much closer than
traditional heterosexual violence. Queer DV articles/books are
*'ed.] * Abuse and Violence in Same Gender Relationships: A Resource for the Lesbian, Gay, Bi, and Transgendered Communities. By the Wingspan Domestic Violence Project, 1998 300 E. 6th. St., Tucson, AZ 85705; 520-624-0348 * Battered Husbands--Domestic Violence in Gay Relationships, by Michael Szymanski. Los Angeles, CA: Genre Magazine, Fall 1991. * Battered Lovers--The Hidden Problem of Gay Domestic Violence, Los Angeles, CA: The Advocate, March 4th, 1986. Battered Wives, Revised, Updated, by Del Martin. (Volcano Press 1976, 1981) The Battered Woman Syndrome, by Lenore Walker Ed.D. (Springer 1984) * Closeted Screams : A Service Provider Handbook for Same-Sex Domestic Violence Issues, by Sharon Smith-Fliesher Soria, Paperback, 1992 Every Eighteen Seconds: A Journey Through Domestic Violence, by Nancy Kilgore. (Volcano Press 1992) Feminist Perspectives on Wife Abuse, Edited by Kersti Yll* and Michele Bograd. (Sage Publications, Inc. 1988) Getting Free: You Can End Abuse and Take Back Your Life, by Ginny NiCarthy. (Seal Press 1986) Healing Your Life: Recovery from Domestic Violence, by Candace Hennekens. (Pro Writing Services and Press 1991) * Lesbian Battering: The Relationship Between Personality and the Perpetration of Violence. Coleman, VE. Violence and Victims. 9(2):139-152, 1994. * Lesbians Talk Violent Relationships, by Taylor, Joelle and Tracey Chandler. Scarlet Press, 1995 * Men Who Beat the Men Who Love Them: Battered Gay Men & Domestic Violence, by David Island and Patrick Letellier. New York, NY: Harrington Park Press, 1991. * Naming the Violence: Speaking Out About Lesbian Battering, Edited by Kerry Lobel for the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence Lesbian Taskforce. (Seal Press 1986) Next Time She'll Be Dead: Battering and How To Stop It, by Ann Jones. (Beacon Press 1994) * Not So Different, After All, by Patricia King. New York, NY: Newsweek, October 4, 1993. |
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The Survivor Project is a non-profit organization dedicated to addressing the needs of trans and intersex survivors of sexual assault, rape, or domestic violence through caring action, education, and expanding access both to resources for those in need and to opportunities for action. For more information check out their web site: http://www.caramia.g-net.org/survivorproject/articles.html Or contact them in one of these ways: Survivor Project 10 NE Fargo #2 Portland, OR 97212-2000 Telephone: (503) 288-3191 FAX: (419) 828-6908 E-Mail: survivorproject@netzero.net
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