The Whispers of Life

 

Introduction

The question of greatness

One day the sons of Zebedee, James and John, approached Jesus with a self-serving request: “Master, grant that  we may  sit on thrones in your kingdom, one of us on your right and the other on your left.” Jesus replied, “As you know, the kings and so-called great men of this world like to lord it over others. But it must not be that way among you. Among you whoever aspires to  greatness must be the servant of all” (Mk 10:37-42).

 

Wrong message from parents

It is interesting to note that in the gospel of St. Matthew, it is the mother  of the sons who makes the self-serving request: “Then the mother of the sons of Zebedee approached Jesus with this request: ‘Grant that these sons of mine may sit at your right and your left when you are king” (Mt 20:21).  If it is the mother’s request then she is sending her kids the wrong message about greatness.

 

It reminds us of the mother from Texas who wanted nothing more in the whole wide world for her daughter than that she attain a spot on the cheerleaders’ team.  And she was ready to  kill the mother of another girl who was competing for the same spot. That would put the girl in no psychological state to successfully compete for the spot.  Not too long ago there was also the case of one father killing another father over a  hockey game their sons were playing. It’s the  wrong message about greatness coming from parents.

 

Sometimes that message exhausts or depresses our kids, or drives them to drink or drugs. It has even contributed at times to their  suicide, which puts an end to the race for greatness that they didn’t want to run in the first place. Most of the time, though, it just simply makes them angry at parents for sending them so much message about being a great doctor or lawyer or cheerleader, but so little message about being a great human being.  It makes them angry at parents for sending them so much message about having a great education or job or car, but so little message about having a great human heart.

 

Wrong message from culture

But it is culture, more than anything else, that overwhelms us with the wrong message about greatness.  All day long all the media extol for us the greatness of the “stars”: the movie stars, the beauty stars, the rock stars, the basketball stars and the football stars. Culture has us (lackluster dummies) jumping up and down like monkeys at their performances.   Sometimes it  even turns us into animals stampeding our peers as we rush to get closer to the stars in order to touch the hem of their garments.  Culture has us (lackluster dummies) pumping tons of adulation into their psyches and millions of dollars into their coffer And before we know it, we the baptized, are in hot pursuit of cultural greatness instead of gospel greatness: “Whoever aspires to greatness must be the servant of all.”  Imagine telling that to our culture today, where  dog eat dog, and where the name of the game is to climb over the backs of others  to get to the top of the corporate ladder.

 

Things were  different in times past. Some of us  remember the old days when gas stations were called “service stations.” You drove up to the pump. A guy  came running out, filled up the tank, washed the window shield and the back window as well, and then asked whether you wanted the oil checked. Honest to God! That’s all gone now.  There’s a new sign out there, and it well summarizes the new age. That “Self-serve” sign out there says “Serve yourself, ‘cause I’m not going to.”  <<Have  you seen the latest commercial? It’s raining pitch forks. The gas-station attendant is sitting cozily inside when he sees a car drive up.  He quickly slips on a rain-coat, dashes out, flips the “Full-serve” sign over to the “Self-serve” sign.  Then he makes a mad dash back inside.>>

 

I am not easily impressed by some of the stuff I receive  through e-mail.  But my nephew, a great business  man, who himself is not easily impressed, sent me this story just a few weeks ago. It moved me much. And on second reading I see how well it fits in here.  It is about a man who isn’t a great doctor or a great lawyer or a great business man.  It’s all about a guy who is “just” a taxicab driver.  It is he who wrote the story, and he wrote it well.

 

Twenty years ago I drove a cab for a living.  It was a cowboy’s  life for someone who didn’t want a boss. What I didn’t realize was that it was also a ministry, a service to others. Because I drove the night shift, my cab became a moving confessional. Passengers climbed in, sat behind me in total anonymity, and told me about their lives.  I encountered people whose lives amazed me, ennobled me, made me laugh and weep.  But none touched me more than a woman I picked up late one August night.

 

I was responding to a small call from a small brick  duplex in a quiet part of town.  I assumed I was being sent  to pick up  some party people, or someone who just had a fight with a lover, or a worker heading for an early shift at some factory in the industrial part of town.  When I arrived at 2:30 a.m., the building was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window.

 

Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once or twice, wait a minute, then drive away. But I had seen too many poor people who depended on a taxi as their only means of transportation.  Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door.

 

This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself.   So I walked to the door and knocked.  “Just a minute,” answered a  frail elderly voice.  I could hear something being dragged  across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody  out of the 1940s movie.  The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.  There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensil on the counters.  In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

 

“Would you carry my bag out to the car?” she asked. I  took the suitcase, and walked slowly toward the curb.  She kept thanking me for my kindness. “It’s nothing,” I told her. “I just  try to treat my passengers the way  I would want my mother to be treated.” “Oh, you’re such a nice boy,” she said.

 

When we got into the cab, she gave me an address, then asked, “Could you drive  through downtown.” “It’s not the  shortest way,” I answered quickly.  “Oh, I don’t mind,” she answered. “I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to a hospice.” I looked into the rear mirror. Her eyes were  glistening. “I don’t have any family left. She continued. “The doctor  says I don’t have very long.”

 

I quickly reached over and shut off the meter. <<This, I believe,  is a kind of peak  to the story, a turning point,  for from this moment on everything is different. It’s a defining  moment which defines the cabbie as perhaps no other event in his whole life  will.>>

 

 I quickly reached over and shut off the meter. What route would you like me to take?” I asked. For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.  We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a  furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had danced as a girl. Sometimes she would ask me to slow down in front of a particular building or corner, and she would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

 

Ad the first hint of sun was illuminating  the horizon, she suddenly said, “I’m tired.  Let’s go now.” We drove  in silence to the address she had given me.  It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her. I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

 

“How much do I owe you?” she asked. “Nothing,” I said. “Oh, you have to make a living,” she answered.  “There are other passengers,” I responded.  Almost without thinking, I bent down and gave her a big hug.  She held on to me tightly. “You gave an old woman a little moment of joy.” She  said, “Thank you.” I   squeezed her hand, then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me a door shut. It was the sound of a life that was closing.

 

I didn’t pick up anymore passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if the woman had gotten an angry driver? What if  I had refused  to take the run, or had honked once, then  driven away?

 

As I look back now,  I do not think that I have done anything greater in my whole life. We are conditioned to think  that our lives  revolve around great events.  They don’t. For the most part they revolve around little events in which     something very great, something very beautiful or meaningful, is wrapped up. 

 

Greatness:  what and where

“Whoever aspires to greatness”  must know what gospel greatness is. It is not being a great doctor or lawyer or   businessman or cheerleader (important though that be); it is being a great human being  like this cabbie. Gospel greatness is not  having a great education or job or car; it is having a great human heart like this cabbie, who turns his meter off and surrenders himself fully to  the moment at hand, because he know there is nothing greater in  his whole life that he could possibly do.“Whoever aspires to greatness” must know where gospel greatness  is to be found. The cabbie knows: it’s wrapped up in the little package before him, and he is not going to let it pass him by.

Conclusion

In the whispers of life

The prophet  Elijah     was commanded to  go outside and stand upon the mountain, and there he would experience the Lord passing by. A howling wind came up but the Lord was not in the wind. A thundering earthquake shattered the silence but the Lord was not in the earthquake. Than a roaring fire swept thought the place but the Lord was not in the fire. Finally a tiny whisper could be heard, and the Lord was in it. And Elijah hid his face” (I Kings 19:9,11-13).

 

The cabbie writes, “As I look back now I do not think that I have done anything  greater in my whole life.” That is not an exaggeration but an immense statement in which he says he had found great meaning in life, and that he had  found it wrapped up in a little package. At the end of the day, it is life’s meaning that we all search for. We’ve asked it a thousand times in our lives, and we’ll keep asking it right up to the very end: “What in the world is it all about?” It’s called “our search for meaning.”  That meaning we don’t find in howling winds or thundering earthquakes or roaring fires. We find it only in the tiny whispers of life. The Lord does not scream but rather whispers the meaning of life into our ears.  And only they lay hold of it  who have turned off the meters of life and have finely-tuned their ears and their hearts.