Your site is very very kewl. It told me what I already new, dump her and move on. But now I have a different problem and I just figred maybe you could help me out here.
I have fallen for a girl I work with. She has agreed to go and play pool with me, but something always happens (not always her fault, I had to cancel once as well, so I think it is genuine). The other reason I think her excuses are genuine is she always calls the next day just to say sorry again and stuff like that.
Problem 1: I think I am out of her league (but that one I think will take care of itself).
Problem 2: She does not that I am interested in her as more than a friend. Well... she should know, but I never said it outright.
Problem 3: Is it worth it pursuing her if we work together as well? (I am just about ready to quit my job if the answer is "No, working together will ruin it.")
Problem 4: I have run out of problems.
It boils down to that I think she is my windmill. And I am seeing things are not there; like maybe I am misreading her intentions. So... more or less the real problem here is that I am scared of her. Is there any hope here?
Firstoff, thanks for the compliment, I'm glad I could help with your previous problem.
Now, for your other problems...
Problem 1: I don't buy into the idea of "Leagues". It's a lame excuse for people to sit on their butts and not go after the people they actually want to go after. Just because she's far more attractive, socially adept, and generally more appealing than you are, you lowly lump of cultural waste product, doesn't mean that you can't go after her, or even, in the oddball chance, get her. Just keep repeating to yourself "Hell WILL freeze over one day, by golly!"
Problem 2: Okay, I have come to the conclusion that there is a part of women's brains that has, as its sole purpose, the role of convincing the woman that, despite the fact that a particular guy calls her all the time, buys her flowers, asks her out on dates, is generally really nice to her, tries to kiss her, asks her to marry him, attempts to bear her children, and so on, and so forth, all he wants is to be friends. I believe that the lobotomy was invented by doctors who were sick of hearing "Oh, I thought we were just friends" trying to find and remove that part of the brain.
The clear solution to this problem is to forget about the girl.
If that is unacceptable, you have to let her know. There is a right
way and a wrong way to do this.
Problem 3: It depends on how sensitive you are to having all of your deepest, darkest secrets be common knowledge to your co-workers. If you don't give two shits what they think of you, go for it. If you feel hurt when someone complains about how you never remember to reload the stapler after using it, either find a new job or forget the girl.
Problem 4: Running out of problems is not a problem.
As a rule, I try not to date people that I am scared of. Of course, I'm not usually scared of them when I first meet them, it's not 'till after I find out that they keep a box of hair in a shoebox under their bed that I get scared.
Good Luck, Stay Dry.
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