From Feelingless in Florida
we are now engaged, it has been 1 year and 1month. I love him. but i
should be the happiest person on earth i am getting married in 45 days
and i feel nothing. both my family and my soon to be have been really
stressing me out. my soon to be spends most of days on this computer
all his free time on this computer,except when he is at work, every
waking moment he's on this computer. he never wants to talk about major
issues that i find importent before we get married. he never want to be
with me and if we are out in public he walks way in front of me. but if
we are with my family he's all over me. I'm i missing something!! he is
real secertive about differt things. we use to be real happy when we
first met, but i put a lot of weight on and so did he i feel because i
gain the weight he is embarresed to be around me. should'nt he love for
who i am, and for what i look like, i am the same person. He makes me
feel real insecure about my self, becouse he we will go out of his way
for another women. i can go on and on but do you get an idea? can you
give any suggestion? thanks.
My Foot: "Hello, Mouth, so nice to see you."
My Mouth: "Hello foot, come on in!"
Some things I noticed-
- You didn't capitalize your personal "i"'s. This could either indicate
that you are lacking self esteem, your shift key is broken, english
is not your native tongue and are not used to doing that, or you are
kinda lazy and didn't bother, or your typing skills aren't what they
could be. or you're frantically typing trying to get this message
out before he finds out that you're using his computer. If it
is the latter, dump him, he ain't worth dirt.
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- The person you describe in your message appears to be a freak.
Not that being a freak is a bad thing, just pointing that out.
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- A year and two months is not a very long time to get to know someone
who you're going to theoretically be with for the rest of your life.
With that information in mind, I'm going to have to say... walk up to
your fiance and tell him that you aren't going to marry him unless
you two work out the issues that you feel are important. All of the
issues you have stated above are VERY important, as is any other issue
that you feel is important. Don't be afraid to postpone the marriage
if you don't feel comfortable going through with it. You don't have
to dump him, just give it some more time.
I said that because a number of people have made some comments to me
indicating that I am being insensitive. Personally, if someone I was
supposed to be marrying in a short period of time was ignoring me
for a computer just because I didn't look exactly the same way as when
we'd met, I'd dump their ass in a second.
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